Here’s the secret.  

You’re already married!  

So many couples miss their own

weddings because they put such

great importance on the wedding.  

They are nearly in a coma by the time

it whirls past them.  

Give yourselves a break.  

Be a guest at your own wedding

and experience what everyone else

already knows -

that you have made the best choice ever.

By the time you read this you will have had the important conversations,

arguments, debates, and love making.  About children or not, careers, family,

where to live, money, legal logistics – all the details of your partnership.  It has probably happened over weeks or months, and you now have a foundation of an agreement with one another.  

You will modify it for the rest of your lives - adding and subtracting as new ideas come and old ideas are no longer relevant.  You are compost.  Organic material turning into other organic material.  

To my mind, this makes you married.

So the wedding – that’s for your celebration.  That’s the time for you and your friends

to come together and witness what already IS.  

I am not marrying you.  You are marrying one another, and I am there to help you structure the story you want told.  Think of it as your own personal myth.  How you met.  How you fell in love.  How you made the decision to go for the gusto, and how you knew this was the person with whom you wanted to take the ultimate leap of faith.  

I will write your story for you and your guests to experience together.  

Think of me as Home Plate and your wedding ceremony as a celebration in the ball park.