Have you noticed that when one member of the adoption triad is missing there seems to be a gaping hole.

 

Are you an adoptee? You’ve been searching for your birth mother or father for years, but can’t seem to make a connection. It feels like the gaping black hole in the atmosphere and you want to sew it up. You think the only way to do that is to find your birth mother or your birth father.

 

And what about you birth parents? For so many years you’ve wondered if your child was raised by a good family, had a happy life, had any longing to find or reconnect with you. You think you will only be whole once you’ve met your child, but forget that he or she is no longer the infant you relinquished years ago.

 

Adoptive parents, you play a role too ... a very important one. You were charged with the most important job of raising a child you did not bring into this world, but whom you love as your own. I suspect you too feel a hole from time to time. What if your child connects with his/her birth parents? Are you afraid you will lose the love you’ve enjoyed over the years?

 

There is a lot to learn from all three corners of the triad. Of course, every triangle is different, just as each individual brings unique thoughts, patterns, and experiences. Openness is the key. Listening is vital. Feeling with the heart is the essence of wholeness. Keep coming back to learn more: That it takes Three to Make a Whole.