emotional abuse

Narcissism = Emotional Abuse

Narcissism looks like this... Your partner treats you and perhaps your kids different in private than in public. In public he may ignore you giving all of his attention to others, or pretend to be the perfect husband and father, while in private he may try to use anger to control you, be sarcastic, haughty and bullying and show little or no regard for your well being or your feelings. He may criticize and put people down behind their backs. He may have a very inflated sense of entitlement and ego, thinking he deserves things that he hasn’t worked for or

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earned and manipulate situations for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. This can fool people and so few of them will believe how he talks to his family in private.

50/50 Men and Women are narcissistic abusers

I say he, because I write from our experience, but there are plenty of narcissistic women, the statistics say that there are more abusive men than women, but we don’t believe that, our audience is about 50/50.

When dealing with Narcissism unfortunately that’s not all...

He may lie about you or paint a bad picture of you to gain sympathy from others and to justify his own bad behavior. You probably have no idea all of the lies he is telling you and the bad things he may be saying about you to others ...

Fights about money ...

If he makes fights when you try and talk about money he may be hiding credit cards or money transactions and he will

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pretend the fights are your fault.

Mind ‘elsewhere’? ...

Many narcissists are obsessed by the fantasy of an ideal relationship that is ‘perfect’ (and therefore fantasy!) and are skilled liars. If the above symptoms describe your partner you should be aware that he may habitually have secret crushes on other women, be having affairs, using pornography, and/or conducting ‘cyber’ affairs (lying that he is single) all without your knowledge. If you notice that his mind is often somewhere else, and he shows narcissistic tendencies, this may be

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the reason. This obsession with this fantasy life is part of what makes him unavailable, impatient and angry with you. It is a major symptom of this personality disorder. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn’t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me ... and then I was shattered.

Emotional abuse turns into physical abuse ...

Not all people with narcissism are physically abusive, but it is a significant indicator that you will wind up being part of a domestic violent marriage. The physical abuse is not always perpetrated by the narcissist either. It is normal to become very angry with someone who manipulates and puts you down. It is normal after years of this treatment (especially if you discover that they have been lying and cheating ON TOP of years of them being humiliating and verbally abusive) for you to even want to kill them or wish them dead. So getting the right help and support is

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very important, but it can be very hard to find.

Dangerous advice

There are very few people who understand the narcissism behind emotional abuse or believe there is any cure, and those who say to ‘leave and have no contact’ are giving you very dangerous advice. This is exactly how to provoke rage and physical (and emotional) abuse and domestic violence in someone with narcissism. It may also result in stalking. And they may not be the perpetrator of the violence or stalking either! Partners of narcissists are often enraged when they see how callously they are cast aside. More people are killed or injured when leaving their relationship or in the two months after leaving than at any other time. If you want to leave, please get our advice first on how to do it safely.

Steve and I have a happy marriage now but it took some very big changes...

Before you give up on your marriage and before you take steps that may NOT improve your safety I would like to share with a couple of comments from our subscribers.

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“I read your e-book and found your advice to be sound, intelligent, reasonable, caring and truthful. You speak my language of “just say it like it is.” My husband and I were in the midst of a 2-day stand-off when I came across your web-site and e-book. I learned a critical mistake I kept making ...” A readers response.

“Great job. I'm a physician and I deal with a few narcissists at work. I enjoy your show.”

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“My husband looked at me with tenderness and relief. We then hugged, talked of love, issues with our marriage and how we both wanted to end the madness. It was the first time neither of us placed blame and we were able to have a constructive conversation of what steps to take next. Your simple advice was the turning point!!! Thank you!!!” A readers response.

Narcissism is blind to itself

Don’t expect your partner to admit to or fix this problem, there are things that YOU need to do, to make you emotionally and physically safer and to bring love and respect back to you in your community and home.

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The first step that I want you take is to subscribe to our free internet radio show.

Immediately after subscribing you will be directed to a private page where I will give you the three questions to ask yourself to be sure that you are not causing the fights! I also want to share with you the three things that you should stop doing immediately (that most partners of narcissists do daily) that will only make things worse. All of this is completely free when you subscribe and is only two simple steps away.

Just provide a valid e-mail address and I will immediately e-mail you a link to a private page on our site with all of this information on it. After this we will send you a link to our internet radio show once a week for ongoing support.

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P.S. In my journey I discovered that the online self-professed ‘expert’ on narcissism, who has been influencing the medical profession for years, saying there is no cure or hope, is no expert at all, but instead a mentally ill man who may know about symptoms, but is dangerously wrong about what the family of someone with narcissism should do to protect themselves and to help. An international TV documentary is being made right now about him and all of the people he has hurt. He has many sites and he has influenced many people online about there being no cure for narcissism and he is very seductive and abusive so please be careful while researching this topic! Kim.

PLEASE NOTE - Kim is not a therapist or doctor, her advice comes from first hand experience and success. Please read this disclaimer before using this site or her products.

Do You Sometimes Worry That...

“Maybe the fighting is all my fault ? ...”

Hi my name is Kim Cooper, and I would like to help you answer this question once and for all, and share with you 3 things you should stop doing right now if you want things in your relationship to improve. But first I want to briefly share my story with you ...

After years of fighting and emotional abuse, my husband Steve was finally assessed as having NPD (Narcissistic personality disorder). I was told then by nearly everyone that I should leave him and have no contact and that there was no cure. Worse, I was made to feel a fool for thinking that he could get better. Despite this (and although he was hurting me) I refused to abandon him. In my heart I knew that

leaving was the wrong thing for me to do.

I knew there HAD to be answers and I made a lot of mistakes and received loads of professional help and advice (some good and most bad!) and after meeting a very well informed policeman I finally did find the steps to end the abuse.

Steve and I have a great love relationship now and we want to help you find the same. If you are feeling anxious, unloved and wanting more respect, love and affection in your marriage, we understand and are here to help you. We are real people and take the time to answer ALL of our readers’ questions personally. Do you or your partner suffer from emotional abuse? ...