We each bring unique experiences, needs and expectations to this gathering. We ask respectfully that everyone honor these guidelines for the benefit, comfort and safety of all.

Listen

Listening seems a simple thing, but deep listening is uncommon in our culture. Try to listen without offering advice (unless asked), without trying to comfort or “fix.” Make a safe place for each to express thoughts and feelings.

Make Space for Feelings

Even hugs or offered tissues can carry a message that feelings should not be expressed. Offer comfort with respect, being sensitive to signals, or wait for people to ask. If you want a hug, or a listening ear, please do ask!

Allow Silence

When it is someone’s turn to speak and she/he falls silent, listen to the silence in the same spirit as you listen to words, making a safe space for whatever may be expressed.

Confidentiality

What is said during the retreat should not be shared outside without the express permission of the speaker.

Comparing Losses

It is a natural human tendency to compare but we know that each loss is unique and each person’s expression of grief is unique and cannot be measured against another’s.

Respect and Acceptance

It is important that we respect all viewpoints, beliefs and expressions, even those that are different from our own. We may come from different religious or spiritual perspectives. We may have very different beliefs about life and death, loss and meaning. We honor our differences by listening with open curiosity.

Self Care

Please make the best use of this retreat for yourself. Notice if you need time apart or a listening ear. Consider “stretching” to try new experiences that are offered, but also protect yourself if you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or just tired.

Participation

We invite you to take advantage of a variety of offerings this weekend. You are not required to talk or participate. Please stay in support of other participants if possible.

Please let a facilitator know if you need to be away from the group.