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An Open Letter To A Woman Who Wants To ATTRACT And KEEP The Love of Your Life... 

Dear Friend,

If you are looking for love outside of yourself you are making a big mistake…

Men don’t fulfill you….your amazing life fulfills you.

What are you doing in your life that inspires you?  I’ve spoken to many women who are so consumed with waiting around for their man to come into their life that they are missing the point.  That “right” man isn’t going to make your life better if you don’t have an interesting life already….

Let me explain….

You already are love…yes you are…it’s just that you may have years of stuff that’s been piled on you, dimming your light…preventing you from seeing your true self

There are 2 types of women who are missing the boat in Love:

1.The one who already knows she is love and has so much to give but is running unconscious patterns from the past

2.The one who doubts….if I’m love then why am I still spending nights alone, sad and empty

The first type is living in the land of the unconscious…this is a little like living in the land of OZ…no judgement…she’s not quite living in reality…and doesn’t know it…but life is reflecting it by not quite working out the way she imagined it would.

It’s a well known fact that people are run by their subconscious mind that holds 88% of their power.  Most of what is in the subconscious mind is formed when we are 0-nine years of age.

That means you learned how to behave in relationship by those who were around you during that most impressionable time…from birth to nine.

From nine on you are still creating new beliefs…just not as many…and reinforcing the others.

The Subconscious Mind is where we hold our beliefs, standards for living, preferences and patterns.  We call this the blueprint of our life.

 

It is important to dig into this part of the mind to see where you stand in regards to your beliefs about relationships.

Don’t you want to know what is running you?  What is having you behave a certain way in relationship? And… What has you react to certain things and not others?

So let’s do a little exercise with the subconscious mind that will allow you to get a peek into what really drives you….

Exercise:

The second type of woman has lost herself …lost her faith in love and possibly life…she’s not sure where to turn next…she’s questioning her value…asking What is wrong with me? Will I ever meet the one?  Will anyone ever want me?

My answer is…nothing is wrong with you…yes, you will meet your “one” and yes, many men will want you.

By Being Love you will soon be attracting more men than you can handle…and the crazy thing is by the time you really “get” this idea that you are love and “grasp” your value as love you will be living such a fulfilling and inspiring life that you will probably not even notice all the attention raining down on you.

This is the very thing that happened to me…I started just fresh out of a divorce…the lowest of the low self-esteem…I felt like I stood an inch high and wondered if anyone could love me…I felt unworthy…stupid…and ugly

Wow!  Now that’s really attractive!!

Those thoughts that ran me were so far from the truth…those subconscious doubts came from my experiences of the past…my upbringing…from the way my parents interacted or not at all

Then my marriage reinforced those beliefs…

Thank goodness I’m not still living in that reality…are you?  Are you still believing that your past makes up who you are…that is simply a perception that can be shifted…and that is the freedom that I’m offering here…freedom from the past…really!

After my divorce I made a declaration to myself, my friends and my family…

I will take the next year off of work to discover who I am and what my purpose is…

Little did I know that this small act was the very thing that I needed and it also revealed self-love…for why would I give myself this gift it I didn’t truly believe in myself?

There was something of value left in me from the divorce…this was my first glimpse at the power of self-evaluation

Will you choose to let life happen to you or will you powerfully choose to create your life?

Choose to be the creator…

In Be Love to Find Love I will lead you step by step through the process of discovery of yourself as your Higher Self…

Your Higher Self is that part of you who has never been hurt…never had a broken heart and who knows your true value as Love…

Your Higher Self…your Soul Self…is that part of you who is courageous, full of love and lights up a room with her smile…

Once you are reconnected with your Higher Self you will always have a resource to remind you that you are love…to guide you along your path and hold your hand through the journey of life.

Living your life disconnected from your Higher Self is like having a bad connection on a cell phone…lots of static…words are missed…and this causes frustration

Many women are trying to make choices from this place of disconnect…their intuition is appearing as faulty because the line of communication is not trustworthy

Where there is real love, there is no selfishness. Amma