I Didn’t Make the Deadline :-(
Friday, November 2, 2007
Halloween came and went... and no dress. I was crushed. I didn’t sleep well that night, the guilt too overwhelming.
The day of Halloween I had to choose between attending DD’s school Halloween party, or stay home and try to finish the dress. There really wasn’t any decision involved; how could I miss her party? I’m the person to blame here, so I put my guilt aside and watched my daughter have a blast at the party.
DD is one remarkable girl. And I say that because it’s the truth, not because she’s my daughter. I had nothing to do with it, other than providing her a way into this world and loving her.
After learning the dress was not done, she didn’t miss a beat, just happily skipped out the door to trick ‘r treat in her American Idol costume, the same one she’d worn to the party.
I have a lot to learn from her.
DH came up with a great recovery: Why not make this her ‘Christmas Picture Dress Costume’?
That night, when I again went to apologize, she said, “Who cares- and I’ll have it for Christmas, right?”
Yes darling, you’ll have it before Christmas. And if I had some pixie dust... If anyone deserves to fly, it’s you!
So... Halloween is over, and the pressure is off. I think that’s one of the valuable lessons I take from this; pressure doesn’t work well with me. This dress was a creation. I need to dream while I create, and that means things take the time it takes to finish dreaming. I still don’t have a formula to pre-calculate my dream time :-)
Maybe DD learned something too:
1. I’m no super-mom
2. Grown-ups mess up too, and they need to take responsibility when they do.
DD... I don’t think you’ll ever know how much I love you.
